Glossary of Terms

Ontological guidance and support is a transformative approach that focuses on who you are being, rather than just what you are doing. The term ontology comes from philosophy and refers to the study of being: how we experience, interpret, and show up in the world.

In the context of personal growth, healing, or coaching, ontological support helps individuals examine the underlying beliefs, identities, language, and emotional patterns that shape their actions and reality. It’s about helping you shift your way of being to align more authentically with your truth, purpose, and power.
 

• Exploring your internal narratives: the stories you tell yourself about who you are, what’s possible, and what you deserve.

• Uncovering unconscious identities or roles you may be living from, often shaped by cultural, familial, or societal conditioning.

• Working with language, emotions, and embodiment as tools for transformation.

• Supporting you to shift from survival-driven behaviors to intentional, liberated ways of being.

• Empowering you to live from your authentic self, not the version of you shaped by trauma, fear, or expectation.

An unconscious pattern, context, story or belief, often rooted in unresolved emotional pain, that influences how we see ourselves, others, and the world, but remains hidden from our conscious mind.
Blind spots are the stories we don’t know we’re still telling ourselves and until we discover and name them, they continue to author our lives.
You cannot heal what you cannot see. Blind Spots aren’t flaws, they’re invitations.
When you bring the unconscious into the light, what was once a limitation becomes the gateway to liberation.
 

Blind Spots often develop as protective mechanisms during formative experiences. Examples include:

• Childhood trauma or neglect

• Conditioning from culture, family, or religion

• Shame or fear that was too painful to fully process at the time

• Internalized limiting beliefs like “I’m not enough,” “Love must be earned,” “It’s not safe to be seen,” etc.

Because these stories once served to protect us, we subconsciously keep them hidden, but over time, they distort perception, create inner conflict, or lead to self-sabotage.

A trigger is an external stimulus, such as a word, sound, smell, image, situation, or interaction, that activates a strong emotional response, often linked to a past traumatic or painful experience.

In the context of healing, triggers can bring unresolved feelings like fear, anger, sadness, or anxiety to the surface. Recognizing triggers is a key part of the healing process, as it helps individuals understand their emotional patterns, develop coping strategies, and move toward greater self-awareness and resilience.

Unhealed wounds and trauma are unresolved emotional, psychological, or energetic imprints left by past experiences and moments where we felt unsafe, unseen, unloved, rejected, or powerless.
These experiences may have been acute (a specific event) or chronic (ongoing conditions), and they often form the root of the beliefs, patterns, and protective identities that shape how we see ourselves and the world.

These wounds don’t just live in the mind, they’re stored in the body, in the nervous system, and in the subconscious, silently influencing our behavior, choices, self-worth, and capacity for joy, intimacy, and expression.

Generational patterns and cycles are the unconscious emotional, behavioral, and belief systems that are passed down through family lines, often for many generations. These patterns can include ways of relating to love, power, safety, self-worth, gender roles, emotion, money, identity, and more.

They are inherited not only through words or direct teachings, but also through energetic imprinting, nervous system modeling, and even epigenetic memory. In other words, we can carry patterns we didn’t choose, patterns that were formed in response to survival needs, trauma, or cultural conditioning long before we were born.

Masculine and feminine energy are archetypal polarities and are two complementary forces that live within every human being (in both men and women.)
They are not tied to gender, but to qualities of consciousness and expression. When we speak of these energies, we are speaking about ways of being, ways of relating, and aspects of our inner nature.

Both energies are necessary for wholeness, and embodying them in healthy ways creates inner harmony, empowered relationships, and aligned action.

Masculine energy is the energy of structure, direction, presence, and consciousness.
It represents the container, the action, and the clarity that holds space for movement and growth. It is the doing, the focused arrow, the stable ground.
 

Characteristics of healthy masculine energy:

• Clarity & Direction – sets vision and leads with purpose

• Presence & Stillness – calm, grounded awareness

• Structure & Discipline – creates order and foundations

• Protection & Integrity – holds safe space with strength

• Action & Focus – moves forward with intention

• Logic & Reasoning – sees things objectively

• Witnessing Consciousness – able to observe without reacting

In a being, masculine energy shows up as the ability to take decisive action, hold boundaries, provide stability, and focus on a mission or purpose.

 

Feminine energy is the energy of flow, creativity, intuition, and embodiment. It represents the essence of being, emotion, and connection to life. It is the being, the dance, the feeling field, the creative void.

Characteristics of healthy feminine energy:

• Flow & Receptivity – allows, feels, and responds

• Creativity & Expression – births ideas, art, life

• Intuition & Inner Knowing – senses truth beyond logic

• Emotional Wisdom – feels deeply and processes in motion

• Nurturing & Compassion – holds and heals with tenderness

• Surrender & Trust – opens to the unknown

• Magnetism & Radiance – attracts through presence, not force

In a being, feminine energy shows up as the capacity to feel deeply, express authentically, create intuitively, and move with the rhythms of life.

Emotional intelligence is the capacity to recognize, understand, feel, and skillfully respond to your own emotions and the emotions of others. It is not about controlling emotions or avoiding them, rather, it’s about developing a healthy, conscious relationship with your emotional world, so your feelings become a source of wisdom, clarity, and empowerment, rather than confusion, reactivity, or suppression.

In the journey of personal healing and becoming more fully ourselves, emotional intelligence is a foundational skill and it allows us to feel what needs to be felt, release what no longer serves, and return to the truth of who we are beneath the old emotional conditioning.

Many of the emotions we carry, such as shame, guilt, fear, unworthiness, or resentment, are not actually rooted in our true nature, but in old wounds, false narratives, and internalized beliefs we’ve absorbed through life experience, trauma, or conditioning.

Embodied transformation is the process of not only understanding change mentally, but fully integrating it into your body, being, and way of showing up in the world. It means that healing, growth, and empowerment don’t just stay as ideas or insights, they become a lived experience that is expressed through your posture, your presence, your choices, your voice, and your energy.

This kind of transformation goes deeper than mindset shifts. It reaches into the nervous system, emotional body, subconscious patterns, and energetic field, the places where trauma, conditioning, and false identities are stored.
 

True transformation isn’t complete until it’s embodied, until it is felt, expressed, and integrated into how we move, breathe, relate, and respond.

Without embodiment, change remains theoretical, something we “know” but don’t live. With embodiment, transformation becomes real, sustainable, and authentic.